Three things that I’m most grateful for today—20 Oct 2016

1. The tiff with hubs before leaving for work.

Tiff—a petty quarrel, especially one between friends or lovers.

What is there to be thankful about in a petty argument? Well, the realisation that it’s petty. And stupid.
It’s over the same issue of my hubs lacking the built-in mechanism to give acknowledgement and affirmation, which is a love language of mine. Love language is ways that people speak and understand emotional love. We do have to learn about our partner’s love language. Erm, it’ll bring more spark to the relationship, that I can tell you. But, the way I reacted to his lack of demonstration was so unnecessary. What a waste of energy!
So yeah, I hope I’ll react this way less.
Understand more about the 5 love languages and take a test to know what’s your (and your partner’s or kids) love language.

2. I witnessed someone accepting Jesus into her life.

I have the joy and privilege of witnessing a lady in her 50s saying a simple prayer and accepting Christ into her life today. As I know how my life had turned around when I get to know God; I witnessed today’s momentous occasion with a constipated-happy expression on my face. That, and trying hard not to cry many happy tears.

3. Spending intentional time with daughter.

Made appointment to catch up with her in the living room. Lol.
Not looking to do idle talk, but a meaningful conversation instead. Do you know what’s weird? It’s being with a person for almost 10 years, and this person turns into a teenager, and suddenly you are left wondering, hang on, who’s this?
I’ll still be playing the role of a parent, but I’ll leave the lecture out of the conversation. Hopefully, I can model what this article says about talking to a teenager.

Maybe I should get a beer to go with the conversation.



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Three things that I’m most grateful for today—19 Oct 2016

Whoa, mama. When I came home tired and saw this, my brain raced through two responses:

  1. Curse (literally) and do the chores grumpily.
  2. Maintain composure and just do it. (Thanks, Nike)

God must have given me an extra dose of wisdom today as I chose option 2. Not a norm for me!

I whipped out Spotify and played my favourite worship songs as I worked through the pile of dishes…


An eternity later…

When I can finally see the basin, I had my three most grateful things list for the day just from doing the house chores. Here goes:

1. I have a home to come home to.

(Trying to see the good in the situation). Dishes and meals to cook mean that I have people at home to care for. Ah, but of course, if there is someone else to do the dirty work, I’m a happy gal. Lol.

2. Our family help out each other.

We normally help each other out in washing the dishes, laundry, and taking out the trash, etc. Today is one of those days where I’m home late and on top of that, no one is around to help me.

3. Super thankful that I didn’t turn into a grouch…

…and spoil everyone’s mood. The cranky bug must be having its day off! This not being cranky means something special to me as my poor hubs & daughter normally will be at the suffering end of my grouch-mania. Yay!
Note: We give our closest family members our worst side sometimes, don’t we? Sigh. 🙁 *Repentful face.

But overall, a win for today! Thank you.

Three things that I’m most grateful for today—18 Oct 2016

Outfit of the day

Today is going down in the history of 2016 as one of my best days ever.

1. I experienced unexplainable joy today!

The difference between happiness and joy—happiness is derived from circumstances, things, and people; joy depends on none of that. Joy is that delight and peace which radiates from within. And I experienced that today! I did nothing different except that both hubs & I prayed & blessed each other in the morning. We’ve wanted to do this for a long time but never got round to cultivating the habit of praying together as a couple. Today we did, and I was blessed my socks off with this beaming, whistling, amazing peace kind of joy! Thank you, Lord!

2. You guys resonated with my article on The side effects of divorce!

Yesterday, I asked God ‘what shall I write about?’ And God used my anger and disappointment of my daughter’s bio-mom not sending her back as promised, to write about the lifetime consequences of divorce.

I received encouraging response from Facebook, Facebook Messenger, Whatsapp and even phone call. Some shared their experiences as the kid, and some shared as the divorced parent. I’m so touched and thankful when I read all the comments and encouragement. Thank you!

3. Our sponsor child wrote to us!


I kissed the letter and cried.

We are so privileged to be able to do something for two kids through Metro World Child.

Please find out more about how you can give one child a chance in life through your sponsorship of about USD30/month.

We can’t change the whole world, but we can make a difference in the world of one child.

Three things that I’m most grateful for today—13 Oct 2016

Jessica Smith Workout1. Resumed workout after a hiatus of two weeks.

Packed schedule and long day today. But, happy that my workout is kind, it’s a quick 15 minutes, easy walking workout (at home) that doesn’t need a giant motivation for me to jump back into my workout routine. I enjoyed Jessica Smith’s workout—simple and honest. Just search for jessicasmithtv on Youtube!

2. Fabulous hospitality by the Alpha Hub Kl peeps.

I was bowled over when I walked into the meeting room for a meeting with the National Director of Alpha Malaysia, Wini. I was greeted not only with cakes and coffee, but a lovely handwritten note as well. It was arranged by their Event Manager, Evelyn, whose gift is definitely in hospitality or making people feel welcomed! The culture of Alpha is just awesome!

3. The conversation that went beyond work.

At the meeting, we had a chance to talk about parenting and such. It made me feel that I’m normal, haha! What touches me was when Wini reached out and offer to spend some time together with me & my daugther, to hang out and learn some cool DIY crafts from her. I’ve been so blessed with generous people in my life. It motivates me to do likewise for others.