Back from my 1st holiday ever in 2009, woohooo! Phuket, Kantary Bay, I love ya!

Worked for 2 days, then Hari Raya holidays, sheesh. Not that I don’t wanna work, but loads of kids around to entertain (myself included, LOL!)

Today, forced myself to wake up at a decent hour, gosh, and resume routine.

Only routine was heavily interrupted by mundane household chores, SHITES!

So, as of now, I am not in the best gung-ho mood, rather panicky. Man, this Coconect Version 1 Beta gotta get moving fast.

Back to work!

I was blessed with a complimentary ticket to Anthony Robbins, and I turned it down. Gave it to my hubby who was jumping up & down with joy. I mean, c’mon, this is Anthony Robbins, the man with 30 over years experience in meddling with people’s brain, and successfully done so!  (lol)

Was caught up with getting my website off the ground that I figure out I just couldn’t spare the time. Plus I thought I was already ok, and the need for a seminar is not urgent.

Well, true & false.

True- I am ok (Sheesh, after attending series & series of seminars this 2 years & mingling with like minded people, I better be)

False- There’s always time, and there’s always room for improvement. So, end of the day, instead of one, I was blessed with two tickets! Thus, a decision was made in a split second for both of us to go.

Hmm…so how should I share this? Truth is, it can’t be shared, it has to be experienced. A live concert is different from listening to Ipod, eh.

But, here’s bits & pieces of it…

The program is not about changing yourself, but rather about becoming yourself. I was once again transformed to a better version of myself.

This time round, I worked on conquering the 2 prisons that had trapped me-

1. My anger (phwoar!) Those who’s close to me will know (or got torched)

2. My health & energy

Stuff that just drained my energy, depriving me of living life to the fullest, working on my business, well, basically, crap.

Tony Robbins technique focused on rewiring the programming we had, the self limiting beliefs, and replacing it with new ones. Ya, a bit hocus pocus you might say? Well, he has worked with 1000 over suicidal case, and have not failed one. People with 15 years of smoking addiction quit within minutes…

Ahh!! I’ll spare the boring details, coz really, it has got to be experienced.

All in all, I had a blast! I haven’t heard so many F words in a seminar, a word that is close to my heart, lol.

I did the Firewalk after all. Yes, yes, walk on hot burning coals. Though I know it’s just a metaphor for a break thru, which I told myself I don’t really need it. But, they said, do it for a great bar story anyway. Well, that GOT me. And I DID IT! YES!!…and got blisters to show off now. Ahahahaha…

On Sunday night, we partied with water pistols & thumping music, I danced like mad (suspense eh, what the f*ck has this gotta do with a seminar?). And I couldn’t remember the last time I got so high sans alcohol. Now, I understand what’s a natural high, couldn’t stop laughing.

There were tears, there were heartaches, there were tears of joy, there were peace like I’ve never experienced before, there were new friendship born, and there are lifelong lessons that I will continue to apply & learn from this 4 days event.

So, if this is what a ‘motivational’ seminar is about, count me in. Count me in anytime.

“There is always room in your life for thinking bigger, pushing limits and imagining the impossible.”- Tony Robbins

This is insane.

In between working on my site since 10.30am, (Yes, it’s a 7 days working-week this 2 weeks) waiting for it to take more than 10 minutes to load PER minute changes…I had:

• Updated my blog TWICE
• Approve comments & replied
• Prepared lunch
• Had lunch
• Facebooked
• Sykped
• Drank coffee
• Did my budgeting
• Written my Will!!

I hereby grant myself the power to choose to STOP this insanity here and now. And give a call to my hairdresser or manicurist, focus on a single task- pampering myself, totally.

Happy Sunday, everyone!

What a wonderful movie! Ok, I won’t spill much beans on this movie for those who haven’t seen it, I’ll leave it for you to enjoy!

But here’s bits of it:

It revolves around this: My Adventure Book, it’s a scrapbook of a little girl that follows her till her adulthood, old age till she passes away…One of the things that resonate with me from this was, she had a page titled : Stuff that I’m going to do. And following were empty pages which she intended to fill up with her big adventures & dreams. But life turns out differently, as how life always likes to do.

What a brilliant reminder to go after Stuff I’m Going to Do…(and will do!), and YET remember to treasure all the LITTLE TREASURES along the way. Coz sometimes don’t we have grand plans, and we impatiently wait for it to materialize…sometimes forgetting that treasures are aplenty, here and now?

I remember these words from Tenzin Kacho (formerly Emi Kiyosaki, yes, she is Robert Kiyosaki’s sis). She is now a Tibetan nun, involves in hospice work where she talks to people facing death.  Through it, she realizes the common regrets of dying people:

3 of man’s biggest regrets in life:

1. Regret that they didn’t lead their life (Mel’s understanding: Take the leap of faith to go after what I really wanted & believe in)
2. Regret that they didn’t forgive or love someone. (Mel’s understanding: Give, and don’t expect a return)
3. Regret that they didn’t speak out. (Mel’s understanding: Express yourself, be it love or forgiveness in your heart)

And to add to this, over a beery conversation last Friday (me, not her) with a dear friend, she told me: When you die, it’s irrelevant to argue over where to put the table, who is right, who’s wrong.

Someone asked me, are you afraid of dying? Of course everyone is afraid in one way or another. But my fear which is my biggest drive is this: ”I do not wish to realise when I die, that I had not lived “

Because, really, everything is irrelevant after you die.

Sometimes, the journey of entrepreneurship is lonely, ya know. It’s you & the world, and you don’t get to bitch with co-workers how the boss sucks, and everything sucks. (Coz the boss is me, ahahahahah)

This is on my notice board right in front of me. Sort of like my bible whenever I got lost.

1.Dream big

2.Do what you love to do

3.Commit to excellence- be the top 10% in your biz

4.Develop unique ability

5.Accept responsibility

6.Develop a clear sense of direction

7.Refuse to consider possibility of failure

8.Solutions oriented

9.Develop workaholic mentality-work very hard at the beginning of your biz

10.Get around the right positive people

11.Be prepared to go from peak to peak

12.Develop resilience and bounce back-how long does it take for you to get back to normal? (Mel’s note: That’s me NOW)

13.Focus questions- ask yourself brutal questions

14.Become unshakable optimist-think/talk abt your goals all the time. Look 4 the good in evry situation

15.Dedicate yourself to serving others

16.Develop reputation for speed & dependability-which activity contributes the most to your biz?

17.Be very honest with yourself- what’s the situation honestly? Don’t self disillusion

18.Concentrate single-minded-ly one at a time

19.Be decisive

20.Backed everything you do with courage & persistence

21.Self-disipline – take time to plan, then decide & ACTION!

Courtesy of Brian Tracy (I think I got these gold nuggets from his seminar)

Boy oh boy, am I in a foul, foul mood today. No, not today, this whole freaking week. Yeah, goes to show you people, Mel is NOT always motivational ok. That said, I do have tricks & tactics up my sleeve to pick myself up when stinking mood hits (NO, I’m not talking about beer today, though normally it helps a goddamn lot)

I found this note I’ve taken a year back. Few pointers I heard over a seminar & resonate with (to? Bah, my lousy grammar), and typed it out. These kind of things are always always good for emergency use. Good timing to use them now when I’m in my woe-is-me, helpless, overwhelmed mood (Though I still think beer will still help a lot…..GAH!! MEL!!)

I hope it will help you as much as it had (and still have) helped me.

Next, oooh, brutal questions…time for a self review? Click here for self review questions.

Why do I say it’s brutal? Question # 1 below- the very fact that should you need to rock YOUR boat, and out of the musty comfort zone, sends shivers down one’s spine, doesn’t it?

I’ve asked myself this question last year, questions about me, my life, my goals, my business. Yep, truth hurts, but nothing hurts more than living a self denial life.

Have fun answering to yourself (for once)!  :P

•If I have all the $ in the world, what biz/career will I choose?

•What was responsible for the success in my life till now? What’s the commonality?

What do you want to be in 5 years?
•What kind of income? What is your perfect biz?

•What is your perfect lifestyle? Family, health, financial independence- how much cash in bank? Passive income? $/month x 240

My 10 goals•Timeline, how? 20 answers

A thought crossed my mind just now (while I’m at my ‘throne’, go figure and ewww)…even though, and if ever (very big IF)  this maiden entrepreneur project didn’t work out (OH, heaven forbid), I’ll still be happy. (Though given the person I am, I will move on to my next big idea, lol)

I’ll still be happy, coz for the first time in my life, I found me.

I found out what makes me happy, I bow down to what my heart is telling me, and dare to go for it, I really value life and people  around me, I value the experiences, I value the moments when I’m in complete bliss, even though it’s over a RM3.00 Mcdonald’s sundae.

Most importantly, I’ve learnt and will continue learning to value & love…me.

I’m starting to develop a ritual that I absolutely adore nowadays.

After my morning workout, (sometimes at my condo gym, walking around the neighborhood with hubby, checking out the properties within our area, or ping-pong, yes! Ping pong, just learnt this very fun sport, hee hee)…I will rest for awhile by the poolside, music plugged in, enjoying the tranquility.

Next, ahhh…pour my chosen bubbly bath gel of the day into the hot bath, put on nice music, grab a book, and bliss….(Note: I dunno who gave me the notion that bubbly baths are reserved for occasions to pamper yourself, and not something that you can indulge in everyday, hence leaving my bath tub under utilized for more than 2 years)

The ultimate finale, slather on perk-me-up aromatherapy body lotion, fixed myself a scrumptious brekkie…and I’m all set to face the day with a gusto!

Hence, my mantra to live by now: A lil luxury a day keeps a girl’s stress at bay!

(Note: Hugs & thanks to Min, sis-in-law & Jen for my birthday pressie…which coincidently consists of wonderful smelling, stress busting luxuries, nice!)

I had a major craving for ice cream yesterday, god knows why. That explained the low, drained energy I was feeling the whole day while trying to work. Sugar low, a friend explained.

Posted my status on Facebook, and received some cute & caring replies. What encouragement for me to go for it, hahaha.

So off I went at the very last minute (before attending a family dinner at 8pm), luckily Mid Valley is just a stone throw away, gawd, I love where I stay.

Hubby was in a rotten mood the whole day, and he comes along accompanying me with his sad puppy face look. (Not to say that’s my fav look). Men & their cave, geez. (And women with their mood swings, woah!)

Deciding between full on sundae with the works, fruits, toppings & all and good old Mcdonalds sundae. Well, the price decided for both of us. >RM20 for a bloody sundae???? I can’t help but feel we are living in a very, very inflated country, yes we are.

We were mid way indulging in our SEPARATE cups of sundae (For heaven sake! Normally we share), hubby commented: Happiness is just that simple, ain’t it? RM3.00 sundae, sitting in Mcdonald’s in our crummy t shirts & shorts, watching people goes by.

I said, yeah. It’s about doing what makes you happy.

And for god sake, it’s just a bloody sundae once in a blue moon, and we (and many others, I presume) tend to talk ourself out of it. 

That’s fattening- one of the totally uninspiring comment I got from my FB.

And that’s how we live life, is it? Talking our way out of simple happiness.

I’ll do this…when

I’ll travel…when (I’m certainly NOT implying that you splurge on travelling on a credit. Can actually save for it, ya know)

I’ll be happier…when

I’ll quit the job I dislike…when

I’ll do things I like…when

If it’s legal, ethical and doesn’t hurt anyone…why not talk your way into happiness for a change?