Does being good parents result in good kids?

Does being good parents result in good kids? melindayeoh.com

You’d think that this is a how-to-be-a-better-parent article. Nope. You can find thousands of those advice online. And from your great-grandaunt Jemina.

This is an article about how you being the most awesome parent on earth—doesn’t mean that your kid will turn out as you would like to.
If you are not yet turned off, please read on.

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Love the Lord your God with ALL your heart: A New Year’s Eve reflection

Love the Lord your God with ALL your heart: A New Year's Eve reflection. melindayeoh.com Photo by Pablo Heimplatz on Unsplash

As I wondered what to write for this post, I started to reflect on the year, all that has happened—my husband’s cancer diagnosis, a work crisis, and an ongoing heartache of a broken relationship…this song came into my mind.

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My story: How I went from totally disinterested to totally in love with God.

The real gift is not under the Christmas tree. melindayeoh.com. Photo by Gareth Harper on Unsplash

 

Christmas to me was—parties, drinks, presents, merry-making, heck-yeah.

This is my story of why I’ve changed, decided to accept Jesus, (remained a non-geek), and how Christmas has an entirely new meaning for me.
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God’s perfect timing to the start of my inner healing journey.

Let go, let God

Weird how an ugly haircut triggered a series of events…

I wanted to save money on a haircut, so I did something completely out of character. Instead of going to my trusted hairdresser, I took a risk and went to trim my hair at an express hair cut outlet. I walked out looking like I’m about to go to prison. I dread having to face people. #vain

That brought to the surface (weirdly)—years of gunk which I haven’t dealt with but need to.

So, I Whatsapp my pastor and told him these three things:

  1. I’m drained physically and mentally.
  2. I’m furious, cynical, bitter, and resentful. I want to get out from this prison—I don’t know how.
  3. Yes. I still can do my work. But I need space and flexibility to work from home. To sort things out away from the routine of forcing myself to go into the office—and face the increased toil of ‘behaving’ in public when instead, I felt like crashing.

My pastor without further questioning said yes, please go ahead. He understood my situation. #grateful

So I did the responsible thing and informed my team about the temporary plan that I will be in and out of the office more often. I didn’t dive into details. I think they sorta know I’m going through sh*t.


Today, I packed my laptop and stepped out of the office. Felt blur and directionless. Although I wasn’t leaving the office permanently, I felt sad. I asked, now what? I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t have any planned counselling.

There’s a ministering course which I wanted to go to receive inner healing for all these knots and mess, which I’ve been trying so hard to untangle but failed. The course, however, was fully booked until November. I questioned myself, how the heck am I going to get some handles to sort things out; now that I have carved the time to do so.

I started to doubt whether this new routine is worth to do, coz it’s more comfortable to go back to the old routine and plough through work and life. Like I always do.

But I have a hunch that—I can’t go on like this. I need to create space in my life. Space to do what, though, I don’t know. So, I took steps to do so, without knowing what’s next.

Then. In a matter of a few hours, I received news that one person pulled out of the ministering course, and I have the spot, would I want to join? Would I want to join?? Would I want to eat ice-cream on a blistering, hot day? I signed up immediately.

I don’t have to wait until November, coz God knows…(Yeah, He knows!) I only have to wait 1.5 days for the 2-day course to commence.


I don’t know what will happen during or after the ministering course. Would I be in so much emotional pain that I’ll feel like dying? I have been avoiding facing the pains full-on as I’m not sure that I can take it. What would I unearth?

What I do know is—God’s timing. It’s perfect, just like Him—He orchestrated my stepping away from the office and into this (scary) journey. And He loves me so, warts and all. He will walk me through this.

And these are all I need to know for now.⁠⁠⁠⁠

Best of my journal Mar – Sep 2016: At a personal retreat 6/6

“God, I’m here because I can’t do life without You, it’s too hard… it’s impossible.“

Background to this journal entry: I went on my first personal retreat earlier this year to carve the space for an uninterrupted time to reflect, and to seek God for directions in my life. I wanna be unstuck as I felt that I’ve reached a roadblock with ‘my progress in life.’

Best of my journal Mar – Sep 2016: At a personal retreat 5/6

“God, I’m here because I’m lost, utterly lost without You.”

Background to this journal entry: I went on my first personal retreat earlier this year to carve the space for an uninterrupted time to reflect, and to seek God for directions in my life. I wanna be unstuck as I felt that I’ve reached a roadblock with ‘my progress in life.’

Best of my journal Mar – Sep 2016: At a personal retreat 4/6

“God, I’m here because I want to go beyond loving what You have done in my life, and just love you dearly for who you are.”

Background to this journal entry: I went on my first personal retreat earlier this year to carve the space for an uninterrupted time to reflect, and to seek God for directions in my life. I wanna be unstuck as I felt that I’ve reached a roadblock with ‘my progress in life.’