Wise words from my senior pastor

My senior pastor shared this with the staff during one of the morning devotion to get us to reflect:

‘Am I walking with Jesus? Am I obeying Him? Am I trusting Him? Focus on NOW. Then you don’t need to worry about the future.

Keep the main thing the main thing
Don’t let small little things throw us off.

Reminding self to remind self.

What are you going to do with what you already got?

Sermon message from Sidney Mohede:

We are a very comfortable generation. We are a generation who thinks we are entitled to things. We feel that we have the right to get what we want. People feel that they are entitled because of their power and position, and the higher the power and position, the more entitled they think they deserve. It is all about ‘Me, me, me!’

The question is not about what I can get. Jesus wants us to have power and authority.

The real question is, “What are you going to do with what you already got? What are you going to do with the influence, the fame, the authority and the wealth that you have? How are you going to leverage your power and position for the world?”

Strength is for service, not for status.

Jesus knew He had all the power in the world. Even though He knew He could save himself from getting tortured and killed, He turned himself into the lowliest of the servants to wash the dirt and filth of the disciples’ feet.  This is a powerful revelation that changed Sidney Mohede’s life. He realised that God wanted him to be influential for a purpose. It is okay to be great. God wants you to be successful and prosperous. However, God wants you to leverage that power and influence for something greater than yourself. God wants you to use that power to serve others.

Be wary of tempations in your marriage

Right place, right time… Weak moment. And you are the featured star of your own horror movie.

Heard this from Chip Ingram’s sermon on Living On The Edge.

Nobody wakes up thinking that they are going to have an affair, cheat, lie, etc. It formed little by little and sneaked up on you before you realised it.

Be on guard. Guard your marriage, guard your integrity.

Always will remember this advice.

Way of life

He is your life- So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭1-2‬ MSG)

How the media is poisoning your marriage

 The media has played a big part in influencing people on what is deemed to be ‘the norm’. Giving up on a tough and bad marriage is one of them. From Hollywood movies to Hong Kong soap operas, the message is this: If it’s causing great unhappiness to both parties and there’s no workable solution in sight, then the only solution is to get a divorce.

Infographics on the deception vs reality of marriage

One of my heart’s burdens is the health and well-being of marriages. It breaks my heart to see marriages falling apart and in the process, dragging everything down with them. Families are torn apart. Children are having to learn how to live a ‘new normal life’ when nothing is normal about broken families – despite what the media is saying to us.

Look, I am not trying to make a suffering relationship sound easy. I am a product of a divorced family, as my parents divorced even before I went to kindergarten. Later in my adult life, I find myself living with the consequences of being in a second marriage relationship; my husband’s second marriage, my first. I have seen firsthand how my step-daughter suffered during her earlier childhood; being torn apart from her shuffling between her biological mother and father, who has sole custody of her. I have had power struggle with his ex-wife for imparting different and conflicting values into my step-daughter. I have screamed through bitter arguments with my husband. At this point, I have to say that while society dictates I call her ‘step-daughter’, in my heart, she is no different to me than a biological child. So it is only for the purpose of this article that I am using the term ‘step-daughter’.

“Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”- Ephesians 4:2-3

 To cut a long story short, our earlier years together was close to being hell on earth as a new ‘blended’ family. It wasn’t until all of us came to know Christ, starting with my husband, then three years later, where I too decided to surrender my life to Him that He took our biggest mistake and made it right. 

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12

Both of you have to commit to the ‘No exit clause’ in your marriage from the beginning.

We had to learn through the most painful way how not to live life selfishly. We had to learn how to love unconditionally despite seeing how hopeless our relationship seemed to be. I am ever thankful for the lessons, horrible as they were. The hard lessons have taught us to close the exit door of our marriage. We decided that ‘there’s no exit clause’ in this marriage, and we are going to work it out, no matter what.

““Marriage is an exclusive union between one man and one woman, publicly acknowledged, permanently sealed, and physically consummated.” ~ Selwyn Hughes.”

With our marriage being rooted in God and made stronger, we can give our daughter a stable growing up environment. She has seen the bad and ugly consequences of both husband and wife wanting their way and insisting that their expectations be met. As she is now maturing into a beautiful teen both from the inside and out; I thank God that she too is, growing her roots deeper in Christ. I can’t be any happier for her or love her enough!

By God’s power, I believe that the ‘generational curse’ of bad marriages and divorces from both sides of our family has been broken. It stops at our generation.

My last take on this – If you have yet to make the decision, please don’t give up on your marriage, please don’t get divorced. Get help, seek counselling, pray. Do whatever, but please don’t give up.

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Eph. 6:10


How to love one another?

It’s easy to love lovable’ people, anyone can do that! But it’s in the loving of people who have wronged us or caused harm to others, or simply just very different from us that my walk being a Christ follower is tested. 

I’m chewing on this passage. 

Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that. (‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭1-2‬ MSG)