This post is a way for me to process my thoughts—four days after knowing that my husband has cancer. It is also for our family and friends who are concerned with how we are feeling with the diagnosis. It is my prayer too that it’ll be a sharing of hope for you. Continue reading “Thoughts from my husband’s cancer diagnosis”
I’m sharing this video and the heart-wrenching words/message from Hillsong UNITED. ‘Even When it Hurts’ is a Praise Song—not exactly in the new-traditional happy-clappy-Sunday-morning sense—no, this is the kind written to sound its loudest in the cold, lonely silence of the darkest night, or the heart-drenched-desperation of the heaviest of tears. Continue reading “Even when it hurts-Hillsong UNITED”
The song ‘Wonder’, by Hillsong United is looping in my Spotify.
If we were having coffee right now…
I’ll tell you that haters gonna hate. Continue reading “If we were having coffee right now…”
When something so Big is in control, I’m reminded that my worries about little things are quite frankly, unnecessary.
Just keep swimming—Dory.
When my blended-but-I-thought-was-doing-well-family spun out of control; my world was shaken to the core.
Thanks to the WordPress 20 days writing prompts aka Everyday Inspiration, I’m finally writing about what I’ve learned from going through six months (and counting) of loss and pain.
Here are 15 things I’ve learned from going through pain:
- Pain is the mother of necessity in growth as a person.
- That really, I can’t control outcomes. I have zero arse control over many things…ok, everything.
- I’m not god.
- That crazy notion of ‘joy amidst suffering’—it’s real and possible.
- I hurt people, and I seriously need to say sorry.
- The years of repetitive hurts caused by others has hardened my heart.
- Depression is real, and it sucks big time.
- I have a choice to give my hand to God and let Him lift me up from my dungeon.
- My years of anger issue is a blinking symptom of something seriously wrong going inside of me.
- What happened even when we were a toddler, stays in the memory, even if we are not aware of it. And it can trigger hot buttons. I learned that from Elijah House.
- God’s word is true and not to be messed with.
- The liberation of letting go, and then through prayer, letting God work— the feeling is unbelievably comforting.
- Not to negate or rationalise away emotions.
- Emotion is the language of our heart, telling us what’s happening inside.
- God can heal the deepest hurts.
Bonus: Making a list is such fun. Try it!
Share your list with me?
20 days writing prompt series. Day two: Write a list
Ran out of steam by running on my own strength. The invitation from the Lord has always been open to me, to go to Him. I didn’t take it seriously, not fully, anyway.
How does it feels like to drop everything at His cross, and follow His lead?
I was presented with this verse, right smack at the beginning of the war movie, Hacksaw Ridge; a true story of an American army medic, Desmond Doss, whose beliefs convicted him to not kill, nor use a rifle…even in the war.
But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him]
Will gain new strength and renew their power . Isaiah 40: 31 AMP
Here I am waiting, abide in me, I pray
Here I am longing for You
Hide me in Your love, bring me to my knees
May I know Jesus more and more
God, I want to know You more. I need to know You more. I want it to be real in my heart. Lord, I want that kind of conviction to depend on the unshakable You.
They will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:31 NIV
Come live in me all my life, take over
Come breathe in me, I will rise on eagle’s wings
We usually celebrate those who rise above the storm. Winners who thrive in terrible situations in their lives. I do too. I love champions like that. But some of us find it difficult to accept that there are people who love God dearly, who don’t blame God for their terrible situations in life, would still be sad, or even depressed.
One thing I felt uncomfortable and confused with the messages I received from certain Christian articles, some sermon messages, and well-meaning Christians, etc. is—the quick downplay of one’s emotions, situations (whatever it is), and the emphasis on perspective, God’s Hope, faith…The keywords here are: quick downplay.
I know that He is in control. I know about changing our perspectives. I know about choosing our responses. I know all that. And we do need to have that and live it out.
But it doesn’t take away the emotions and pain, certainly not the situation. It’s hard to choose a good response to not cry when you are bleeding.
For me at my low point of life, being ‘preached’ that we should focus on God (while this is true), makes me struggle even worse. It makes me struggle with my struggles. That the sadness must be taken away because, you know, God is hope. It makes me feel guilty that I’m feeling sad when I have so many things to be joyful for.
It makes me feel—less than a Christian.
Don’t get me started that yeah, guilt doesn’t come from God, it comes from Satan, yada yada. I. know. that.
In our zealousness to guide people back on track—have we moved too fast to point people to the bigger picture—unconsciously downplayed the complexity of emotions, and therefore desensitised pain?
Is it any wonder that people are lonely in their pain in a world of fixer-uppers?
When we acknowledge people’s pain in their weakest moment, we give them strength and hope because—someone understands.
Do that often enough, chances are the person will have enough strength to rise, one step at a time.
I cried at this scene. I can relate to me, to my daughter, to the many others who are struggling. It’s one of the reasons why I never say ‘chin up!’ to people.
I have the tremendous blessings of a handful of people who were coal bearers during my current winter season in life. These are the precious people who literally and figuratively sat beside me when I have no more words and no more tears to shed. God gave me His strength through them. Receiving the comfort on my bleeding wound, I can then better hear the message of hope. So, I wanna say thank you to each of you. You know who you are.