It’s human Be-ing, not human Do-ing

I just got back from a seminar/workshop/preview, dead tired. Barely recovered from my Singapore trip, followed by the avalance of work when I’m back. But I still went to this workshop tonight because I want to learn, for my business.

I took time off from my work, from my family, from my dinner as I was delayed but I don’t want to be late.

The event stated 7PM-10PM. I arrived 6.50pm.

Typical of Malaysian timing, it started almost 8pm. No apologies whatsover, just so waiting for other late comers.

Time wasted:1 hour

Highlight of the event:

We were all stationed with a desktop, so that we can do the workshop live, which is cool.

Were asked to sign up his group, and check our emails for the verification.

Went to gmail to check, done the log in, suddenly I noticed an email about a conference I’m supposed to attend tomorrow asking me to register…so naturally I read on as I need to make sure my registration is in order.

At that time, Mr Trainer asked a participant a question, then asked me the same question. As I see this is an informal class, and there’s only 3 persons there, I told the truth and said, sorry, I tuned out for a while.

Whoah, all hell breaks loose. Mr Trainer lashed out on me, interrogating what I was doing, and I’m insulting him. To which I remarked, with all due respect, I came here on time, and waited an hour, I wouldn’t be here if I’m not serious and want to waste my time.

He goes on and said, well the class is just gonna wait for me now to finish the email! Which I’ve already signed out, and on Google Docs to take notes of whatever he’s gonna teach. I was fuming mad of being accused, and in such manner.

I logged off, and pack my stuff almost ready to leave, when he come to his senses and apologized.

So I stayed on, gave each other a chance…learnt some new stuff, all the while trying to decipher this guy.

And I came to this conclusion:

The speaker/trainer which I won’t be naming any names here, calls himself professional, he may be; he also may be doing a damn good job in his online business.

But in terms of being a tactful & being a human in a social setting, he fails miserably. In the self indulgence pursuit to be a no nonsense, fast talking, straight talking person, he in fact comes across as someone who runs other ppl down, obnoxious, rude. “Hak yan chang”.

And I was thinking, u hv to be a mature person who has a high level of EQ to be able to look past this and b frens with him.
As the w/shop moves along, I can sense/ suspect that there may be hope in this guy, and beneath the shitty exterior, there may be possibilities that a decent human being lies within. Time will tell.

For now, I will put this incident aside, and concentrate on being a human being.